Around 18 months I was emailing and calling all my triplet momma friends. My kids had become stage 5 clingers and no matter what setting we were in- they wanted me and they wanted to be held. There could have been 66 kids begging them to play with new shiny toys and 103 blinking light games and they would still be crying at my feet to be held. I couldn't breathe. I felt like I had done something wrong to literally enable them to play in groups or to play alone quietly. It was strange. But after talking to others, it sounded normal. One mom said, "you will miss the clingers." I thought no way, anything is better than this. That's about the time we made it a point to jump feet first into play groups and added a day of mother's day out to our routine.
So at the end of this month the clingers, will be three. The boys rarely ask to be held( Gigi will ask to be held when she is 10 I'm convinced) and always ask for your hand. We were walking into school the other day and alissa and I stared at one another noting that EVERYONE was walking and no one was even asking to be held. Miracle. Last night at bed Gianna crawled up into her bed and when she put out her hand I noticed that her wrist was still chubby like a baby. You know, that little fat part that makes a crease in their wrist? My heart has been heavy with this toddler stage as it moves farther from "toddling" and more into "kid". No more babies for us and no more wrist chubby. Ouch. Ouch. Ouch.
I marvel over all the pregnant women in our lives and how they juggle a baby on the hip, a four year old running around and a two year old they are trying to wrangle..... I love that balance. And while ours is very very different, I love our balance. I love that while we may have everyone going in three different directions- we are all moving at the same speed. Everyday is new. Everyday is different. And while my twin mommas can "identify" with me- the third baby(kid) is definitely the one that throws this train off rail :) I bet my quad momma friends are laughing at my post.
I feel like summer brings on a lot of celebration at our house. First of all, my spring event is OVER, Easter has been celebrated in a big way, mother's day has been celebrated(my heart might have exploded), Father's day was big, the summer beach vacation has been booked, swimming lessons are complete, Whit and I are planning a mini vacation for our 10th anniversary and we celebrated the most important birthday in our lives…the shep trips. May 27th, yep, it was a game changer. While my BFF will tell you that was NOT the delivery day I had in mind, it was their day nonetheless. It was a day filled with fear and joy and I am certain there will never be another day like it. Mostly fear. It was the day we became parents and the day our hearts officially started beating and living outside of our chests. Some may come close but none will match it, ever. The three amigos turned three.
I hope you too are coasting into summer. I hope you plan a trip with your kids, your husband or your girlfriends. I hope that if you found my blog because you have also struggled for babies or are struggling for babies, that this summer you continue on the path of hope and find JOY in the everyday of this season. I have some summer(maybe fall) plans for my blog. I would like to add some resource pages giving extra support and additional information on how we got from point a to point b in our baby journey. I have been drawn to helping others on this path and have found joy in pouring into their lives. I think its so funny how our lives are so "connect the dots". I am certain God gave me this infertility voice to speak His word over friends and friends of friends. He proves times and time again that He will not leave us and He will see his plan through. I also plan on adding a multiples resource page to help multiple mommas gain a grasp of what it looks like to momma more than one at the same stage. stay tuned…..
Happy Summer friends, it's here……..
I feel like summer brings on a lot of celebration at our house. First of all, my spring event is OVER, Easter has been celebrated in a big way, mother's day has been celebrated(my heart might have exploded), Father's day was big, the summer beach vacation has been booked, swimming lessons are complete, Whit and I are planning a mini vacation for our 10th anniversary and we celebrated the most important birthday in our lives…the shep trips. May 27th, yep, it was a game changer. While my BFF will tell you that was NOT the delivery day I had in mind, it was their day nonetheless. It was a day filled with fear and joy and I am certain there will never be another day like it. Mostly fear. It was the day we became parents and the day our hearts officially started beating and living outside of our chests. Some may come close but none will match it, ever. The three amigos turned three.
I hope you too are coasting into summer. I hope you plan a trip with your kids, your husband or your girlfriends. I hope that if you found my blog because you have also struggled for babies or are struggling for babies, that this summer you continue on the path of hope and find JOY in the everyday of this season. I have some summer(maybe fall) plans for my blog. I would like to add some resource pages giving extra support and additional information on how we got from point a to point b in our baby journey. I have been drawn to helping others on this path and have found joy in pouring into their lives. I think its so funny how our lives are so "connect the dots". I am certain God gave me this infertility voice to speak His word over friends and friends of friends. He proves times and time again that He will not leave us and He will see his plan through. I also plan on adding a multiples resource page to help multiple mommas gain a grasp of what it looks like to momma more than one at the same stage. stay tuned…..
Happy Summer friends, it's here……..
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